Part 1 we dealt with resistance to change, today we will learn how to manage the transitions or changes in our lives, how do we face the rabbit hole with courage?
Acceptance: Yes, acceptance is a choice—a hard one most definitely and one of the most important ways of dealing with change because through acceptance every other way of managing change flows…. In the end it’s a choice that only we can make at any given situation of our lives. when we learn to accept things as they are we open the door to inner peace we stop resisting what is happening to us, and then our mind can be open to the changes that is happening in our lives … In the process of accepting we should always ask ourselves this question, “ have I done all I humanly can? If the answer is yes then it’s now out of our control… the next step is to accept what life is presenting to us and let go and let God/universe. Acceptance, in my opinion, is the key to convert momentary happiness to enduring happiness; it is like protecting ourselves with our own shield.
Non Attachment to outcome: When you attach yourself to the outcome of anything be it a project, your goals, you will find it hard to manage changes in your life because you think things should happen a certain way in your own time table …and you know what our timetable is like…everything going from A to B then C straight forward but life has its own way of bringing about your dreams… like a game of snake and ladders.. Obstacles, changes, doors closing, people dying or leaving us…. These take us to Z before going to B… others are redundancy or sacked from your job before starting that business you always dreamed of… life is one big mystery and we never have the answers, so you should just trust that whatever is showing up is what is needed for your growth and stop attaching yourself to your outcomes and your own man made map /GPS so you don’t set yourself up for disappointments… you should try and enjoy the moments be in the present don’t see it as a means to the outcome we want.
Change your perception towards the change: Change can definitely cause disruption in your life. If you have chosen to make the change, then you probably feel more in control of the situation. If the change is occurring without your consent, then you need immediately to make certain that this transition does not take control of your decisions. When change happens in your life, react by being excited, stimulated and inspired—not threatened, terrified or immobilized.
Look after your body health: Change causes stress, and stress can be detrimental to your health. So whether you think you have the energy or not, take positive action. Start moving physically, and do not allow yourself to become complacent. Get 6 to 8 hours of sleep regardless of whether you want it; eat well—regardless of whether you feel like it; exercise every day to burn off some of the stress and get the bodies happy pill endorphins, and drink more water to flush out the impurities caused by toxic stress levels. When you handle change in your life, taking care of your physical body often is neglected. Keep moving—you’ll feel better—even in tough times.
Build Relationships and Network: Change can lead you to meet new and inspiring, helpful people, or it can lead you toward isolation. How you handle change in your life can cause you to become afraid and turn inward, not wanting to share your fears, sadness, or anxieties with others. But during life transitions, change is easiest when you let others help. Build a network of support. Surround yourself with a team of 2-3 people who will keep you moving on your forward path to success.
Stop burying your head in the sand: Be prepared if is sickness read about it, if you are hearing whispers of redundancy at work start preparing your CV, start looking for other options.. If your business needs a face lift or you are starting a new business do your research and be prepared for the change ask other business owners how they coped from the transition of being employed to self-employed… remember grass is always greener until we get nearer… Always ask yourself what’s the worse that can happen: will I loose my job, will I be uncomfortable if he leaves me or I start all over… If it does not kill me it will make me stronger.
Embrace Your Dreams: as you are going through your lives goals you are going to experience changes in your life… Always ask yourself where am I now? And where do I want to be in the future? Expect some discomfort as you are moving forward and you will experience some bumpy rides which will come in form of change… as you are handling some of the changes in your life celebrate your success, small or large, you are on a journey called life and change is part of the process
Regardless of the changes you are experiencing, life is worth living. So, go out and embrace life. Make life an adventure worth exploring.