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This is a metaphor for the road to uncertainty/unknown/adventure it comes from the famous Alice in wonderland story… this is the opposite of leaving your comfort zone…  and what on earth forces us to leave this zone… CHANGE

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in this article i will highlight reasons why we humans hate going down the rabbit hole.

Change scares us—probably even more than our worst phobias, because we are not in control but it’s an issue that we don’t think about because it manifests itself subtly in so many ways. Whether a relationship starts or ends, you’re moving, you’ve got a new job, or you’ve lost someone you love, change—whether it’s good or bad—causes stress.

Why do we hate change?

Our brain likes things to stay a certain way

Like walking down the street taking a familiar path we feel more in control but once we take a new path our brains start sending funny signals like running into a roadblock, suddenly information we trusted has broken down. We say to ourselves: Where does the other road lead? How long will it take? Is it dangerous? What we don’t know tends to scare us, and change creates a lot of things we don’t know. As a result, we tend to act pretty irrationally to try and prevent change, often without realizing it, and make our lives unnecessarily problematic.

Closed minded (can we call them old school?)

People that are closed minded find it very difficult to accept change, they are not open to new ideas or new ways of seeing things, they belief their  way or old belief system is the only and right way and  anything on the contrary will make them resist change. An example in a work environment where change needs to be introduced by management  some employees seem to have  a close mind attitude  by not wanting to be confused  with any new facts or  supporting documents about the change even if you try to let people in this school of thought see a better tomorrow… Their minds are fully made up.

Lack of patience dealing with discomfort

If you do not have the patience to see the good that will come out of a change in our lives we will resist it with every fibre in our body, we are not patient enough to deal will the minor or major discomfort that will come out of a change while leaving our comfort zones, we focus only on the pain of the change instead of the growing process. We never learn something new.   Lack of patience makes us avoid pain and discomfort and this prevents change, it prevents us from eating healthy, starting our own business, new project, learning a  new skill etc… This is one of the hardest resistances of them all discomfort…

Fear of the unknown (down the rabbit hole): We’ve all heard of the old proverb, “The Devil you know is better than the one you don’t”. This great fear of the unknown causes people not to take chances and to stay in situations where they’re not very happy….. You tell yourself the “grass is greener” and bury any thoughts of changing your situation for the better. You think you should stay where you are, just in case. You don’t have a crystal ball to predict the future so you can’t tell for sure what the consequences of your actions will be. You do know what you have now and you tell yourself that if you think about it, it’s really not that bad. Right? The fear of the unknown is what stops most people going down the rabbit hole  and not making positive changes in their lives. If you let it, your imagination can dream up a never ending supply of terrible things that could happen.

Creature of habit: hard to teach old dog new tricks

Doing things in the same routine, predictable manner is comfortable. Asking people to change the way they operate or think is asking them to move outside their comfort zone. “We’ve always done it this way, so why do we need to change?” becomes the rallying cry for people who have difficulty changing their routines. In some cases, people may ignore or deny the change simply because it requires them to experience something beyond their normal way of life. We are normally hesitant or unwilling to try anything new because we are so set in our ways as a result it impedes our personal growth, development and adaptation to change.   Instead of using it as an opportunity of life to live well we put ourselves in a cage and live a stagnant mediocre life.    

Attachment to external stuff
when contemplating change we tend to focus on external things to define our identity and worth (what kind of job we do, what kind of possessions we have, how much we make). We put an emotional weight on stuff like this. If we don’t have the latest gadget, car or live in a certain location, we feel like a failure. We can’t take the risk of losing all our possessions. It’s who we are. People always ask us, “what do you do?” When we answer, our job seems to be a huge part of our identity.

Change freaks us out because it threatens to expose our weaknesses and our vulnerabilities.

part 2 of this series will  find ways to manage and accept change.

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