The finale of this series the misunderstood word “humility” a brief recap on what I have been discussing over the past 2 weeks. I defined what humility is, according to the British writer C.S. Lewis — humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less. I also elaborated on some of the characteristics of humility which in a nutshell.. is not self-deprecation, being a doormat. It’s about being open minded, having genuine concern for others just to name a few … I also went on to discuss the benefits of being humble which are: forming genuine relationships, becoming better leaders and so on….if you missed out on any of the series you can click on the links below
Today I will discuss Ways to demonstrate humility in our everyday lives
(1)Gratitude goes a long way
Most of the time we want and obsess about what we don’t have. We spend most of our time chasing what we do not have envying others along the way for having what we want, instead of taking the time to appreciate what we have at the moment… we should remember a lot of people are wishing to be where we are… take time each day to count your blessings this helps humble you.. Pursue your dreams but appreciate where you are at the moment
(2)Give praise to others that have earned it
Appreciate the talents and gifts that are in others… Challenge yourself to do that on a daily basis. Compliment them when its needed and encourage people to be the best they can be and also appreciate that people are different and accept them for who they are… pride makes us resentful of another’s talent and gift.
(3)Avoid taking all the credit.
A lot of people have helped and supported you to become the person you are so that you can achieve your dreams. It’s totally fine to be proud about your achievements, but keep in mind that nobody ever does anything totally by themselves, and that as people, we are all helping each other to accomplish our goals. Share the love. Recognize others who have helped you on your path to success
(4) Stop comparing yourself to others.
There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.” Ernest Hemingway
With this quote in mind…. While competition can be healthy and stimulating, it’s nearly impossible to be humble when we’re constantly striving to be the “best” or trying to be better than others. Instead, try looking at yourself more. Remember, the ultimate goal isn’t to be better than anyone else, it’s to be better than the person you used to be. When you focus your energy on improving yourself instead of comparing you to everyone else, you’ll find that it is much easier to make yourself better since you don’t have to worry about whether or not you’re better or worse than anyone.
(5)Remember you are human so not perfect and can make mistakes
Part of being humble is understanding that you are not perfect and will make mistakes. Once you see life from this perspective you will know that everyone is prone to mistakes and judge people less… mistakes are all part of growth because we learn from it.. Although we should try our human best to mitigate costly mistakes which are under our control… we should not be scared to try new things even if we fail in the end…
(6)Avoid boasting and bragging
I shout this from the rooftops our society encourages us to brag about our accomplishments even when it is not necessary… it’s good to have a healthy self-esteem but nobody likes it when someone constantly tries to bring attention to themselves and their own achievements. If you feel like you really have done something great, chances are people will have already begun to notice that, and they will come to respect you even more for your humility. Note “Talent is God given. Be humble. Fame is man-given. Be grateful. Conceit is self-given. Be careful.”
(7) Be an active listener
It is not all about you while engaging in a conversation, discover what others have to offer and ask for their opinions before opening your mouth. It shows that you value their opinions as well as their insight.
This is another great way of appreciating others more and being more humble. The next time you engage in a conversation, let the other person talk, don’t interrupt, and ask questions to keep the person talking and sharing. Though you should contribute to the conversation, make a habit of letting others express themselves more than you do so you don’t act like you’re only concerned with the things that are going on in your life.
(8) Have a teachable spirit.
I hammer home this point when it comes to people who are in management positions… examples MDs, CEOs managers and so on…. Nobody is perfect or the best at anything always adopt this mindset ” I do not have all the answers”. There will always be people who are better than you at something, and there lies the opportunity to learn from them. Find people you aspire to be like in certain areas, and ask them to mentor you. As soon as you cross the line of being ‘unteachable’, bring yourself back down to earth again. Being teachable means that you admit that you always have more to learn about life. It makes you grow and become a better person.
(9) Help others succeed
A big part of being humble is respecting others, and part of respecting others is helping them. Treat other people as equals and help them because it is the right thing to do. We are all unique in our own ways no one is superior or inferior to next person. . It’s been said that when you can help others who cannot possibly help you in return, you have learned humility. Helping people in need will also make you appreciate what you have even more. .
Food for thought
Few things attack the ego quite as much as helping others succeed. Pride hoards knowledge and resources; humility shares them
Till next time